Love, the word itself is as beautiful as the feelings it evokes in a person. It not only changes and transforms you but also how you think and see the world, making your mundane and normal life a little magical. When you love a person, you literally make them feel like royalty, like they are your king/queen. Whatever you do or whatever you think you want them to be on your side, supporting you and validating you.
FAIRY TALES AND REALITY:
But, what happens when this feeling is not reciprocated? What happens when you find out that the magic, the fairytale was just in your heart; not theirs? How does it feel like to be rejected for a feeling so pure, it makes the angels sing? One-sided love is one of the most heartbreaking things a person encounters in their life, where you know that what you feel for someone is not what they feel for you-the feelings are not mutual. What should a person do when they are put into this situation? The only thing, in my opinion that you can do is not force your love on that person. Love should be freeing and liberating, not suffocating. You should not smother someone with your feelings, they should be given their own choice to love you or not love you. The worst thing a person can do to someone they truly love is to guilt them with that love. Where they do value the relationship you have but are guilt tripped into making it something more just because they don’t want to lose you. The most common occurrence of this one-sided love is in friendships, it happens more often than not that after being friends with someone you start feeling infatuated by them and due to who they are as a person this infatuation turns into love.
What a person needs to do when he/she realizes that their love is not what the other person wants, then just confess how you feel and let them figure it out. Whether they want to pursue a relationship with you or not is their choice. Loving someone is one of the most pure things in this universe, and we should not tarnish it with guilt and resentment for someone not loving us back. We should support and respect their decision even though it is the hardest thing to do, loving someone so much and not being able to be with them.
I once read somewhere, that if you truly love someone, let them go and if it’s meant to be they will come back. This is what you should do, confess and let them choose you.
Another thing that usually is very frequently seen, is the jealousy that comes with love. If someone is not in love with you but with someone else, it is okay to be jealous about it-it’s normal. But acting on that jealousy is what ruins relationships. Just remember, you are lucky that you have been in love-even if it’s one-sided. There are so many people out there who have never felt this feeling. So praise the God that he chose you to experience something so beautiful, that most people never have instead of losing your mind by being jealous and insecure.
FIRST, LOVE YOURSELF:
At the end, I would just like to say that being in love with someone is a blessing, no matter if they feel the same way about you or not. You know what you felt was true and magical and a lot of times when a person is in a one-side love story they feel dejected and lose faith in love. No, just because your one love story was not completed does not mean there is not that one person in this world that was put on earth for you. Just know that when you find that person who will love you as much as you love them, that moment onward your life will turn into something out of a fairy tale. All your hardships and failed love stories will feel so insignificant in that moment and the rest of your life will be what you dreamed of. Additionally a lot of people are defined by their partners and their lovers, but I think your love life is not what should define you, it should add to your life, sure, but it should not be the only thing you are known for. Go out, travel the world, meet new people, have new experiences and grow as a person and along the way if you find someone to share you life and your heart with, that’s great but even if you don’t find a person you should love yourself and love your life. Because at the end of the day, no one can love you if you don’t love yourself.