Introverts Vs. Extroverts: How their minds work?

INTROVERTS
Google defines an introvert as a person who is reserved and reticent. Anyone who does not like socializing and is not fond of meeting new people instead of like their own little bubble. Generally, these people want to stay alone and get their energy back by being with themselves. It is difficult for introverts to meet new people and immediately get along. They usually are very closed off from others; especially ones they just met and take their own sweet time to get comfortable. They like to first build a relationship of trust with someone before letting them in completely. Sometimes it could take mere hours and days but it can go longer according to how well your energies match with each other.

EXTROVERTS

An extrovert, on the other hand, is someone who has opposite characteristics to an introvert; like a person who is outgoing and socially confident. They thrive in social settings and are the life of every party. They want to talk and mingle and meet new people. Hearing and telling their life stories to strangers and people you just met is not uncommon for an extrovert. They get their energy from being with people and doing social activities instead of staying alone at home by themselves.

THE MISCONCEPTIONS THEY FACE

It is human nature to make some type of judgment about a person you just met, and it’s not necessarily always negative. Sometimes it can be very exact and true. Some myths or misconceptions about introverts are that they are very rude or arrogant or they don’t like you, which can be very false. Introverts do not show their emotions a lot, which can make them look very proud, and seem like someone who doesn’t want to talk to you but in actuality, they are just uncomfortable around new people. They don’t know how to express themselves. Maybe they like you from the moment you two interacted but would not be able to tell you that very easily. Just know that they do not hate you they’re just shy.

You might sometimes find an introvert very sarcastic, superficial or flippant but it is not because they are being disrespectful, you need to understand that it is because they are very anti-social and use humor to deflect or spin things around so you have to talk instead of them. Another very popular myth about introverts is that they do not like to talk. Them talking depends on the person or the company they are around, an introvert could be the most talkative person around the people he/she is comfortable with like their best friends or family members, it just takes them some time to open up to new people.

Now, let’s talk about our extrovert friends. They are the blabbers, the ones that can talk all the time, who want to tell you everything and who cannot stay alone. Misconceptions around extroverts are also very common like one of the most frequently passed judgments is that extroverts are very confident, they are really good public speakers and are very bubbly and loud. This also depends on the person. Sure, extroverts can talk to people easily without hesitation but that does not mean they are confident, some extroverts love to party, meet new people and become the center of attention but are not confident at all. Like they cannot go up on the stage and just give a speech spontaneously. No! It’s not true. Another misconception that follows extroverts is that they do not get stressed. Just know that if an extrovert is stressed in a public setting what they do is a channel that energy and make use of it to relieve that stress. Unlike their introvert friends who, if they are stressed and people start coming up to them and talking to them, will start to panic more.

WHAT SHOULD WE DO?

Moving forward we should be just mindful of the people we are around. If the person we are hanging around is shy and reserved (introvert) we should make him/her comfortable around us instead of making them nervous and taking them places where they are not at ease. We should interact in such a way that it is not draining. Like you do with a new pet, a cat, for example, will first have to trust you before it lets you pet it. Similarly, we should first gain an introvert’s trust so that they can open up.

With an extrovert, we should be watchful that they are not our guardians, it is not their duty to take us to parties and help us meet new people, and we should not misuse their friendship. Instead, we should also make them feel wanted, someone who is cherished. They too should feel like they are loved for their personality and are not taken for granted just because of the bubbly nature they possess.

We should all make each other happy in our own skins instead of shaming, for the features and characteristics that make us different and unique.

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